About this episode

The episode discusses overcoming the challenges of reluctant leadership by embracing human skills and stepping into a leadership role with confidence.

Reluctant leadership is the resistance to expanding your influence, because stepping out of a functional expert role can feel intimidating. I have worked with incredibly successful leaders who hold themselves back by listening to the self-doubt in their heads instead of acting on their capability to guide others. Accepting the leader within allows you to multiply your impact and get the results you are hoping for, and it doesn’t have to come with a sentence of sacrificing your peace or well-being. Tune in to learn why you might be clinging to your technical expertise and avoiding the responsibility of leading so you can step into an expanded role with confidence, and healthy boundaries. Stepping up doesn’t mean giving up your freedom; you can be successful and have a lifestyle that lights you up. Episode Highlights: Untangling the belief that you are not a "people person" by recognizing the relationship building that has already contributed to your success. Noticing the fear of losing control that leads to hyper-vigilance or micromanaging. The result of changing your approach to leadership: you get to play your own game and create an equitable situation, without…

People in this episode

Host: Tosca DiMatteo

Topics covered

• reluctant leadership
• human skills
• influence
• self-doubt
• technical expertise
• healthy boundaries
• relationship building

Keywords

• leadership
• influence
• self-doubt
• technical expertise
• healthy boundaries
• relationship building
• micromanaging
• success

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