Fantasy Self VS. Future Self | Ana Urban | ADHD + Mindset Coach

About this episode

Ana Urban discusses the difference between the fantasy self and the future self, exploring themes of perfectionism and personal transformation.

Ana Urban is an ADHD coach, educator, and creator who helps people better understand their minds and build lives that work with their brains instead of against them. After being diagnosed with ADHD at nineteen, Ana spent years navigating procrastination, perfectionism, shame, and self-worth struggles before discovering a more sustainable approach to growth and personal transformation. In this conversation, we explore one of the most thought-provoking ideas I've heard in a long time: the difference between your fantasy self and your future self. We talk about why so many people get trapped chasing an imaginary version of themselves, how perfectionism disguises itself as self-improvement, and why lasting change comes not from fixing yourself, but from learning to trust the person you're becoming. WATCH EPISODES ON YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/heatherparady TOPICS FROM THIS EPISODE: The difference between your fantasy self and your future self How perfectionism and self-criticism keep us stuck Why small identity shifts create lasting transformation CONNECT WITH ANA URBAN: Website: https://www.anaurban.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adhd.untamed/ Untamed…

People in this episode

Host: Heather Parady

Guest: Ana Urban

Topics covered

• fantasy self
• future self
• perfectionism
• self-improvement
• personal transformation
• identity shifts

Keywords

• ADHD
• mindset coach
• procrastination
• self-worth
• lasting change
• trust
• growth

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