Roommate Mode and Midlife Relationships: A Conversation with Katie Rössler
From Unfolding: Audio Letters from the Middle of Becoming by Erica Voell
May 4, 2026 · 44 min · Season 2 · Episode 29
About this episode
Erica Voell and Katie Rössler discuss the impact of perimenopause on relationships and the emotional disconnection that often arises in long-term partnerships.
Content warning: Katie shares some a surprising history, so this is one you might not what to listen to this with young kids in the car. In this episode, Erica is joined by Katie Rössler, relationship strategist and couples counselor, to talk about what perimenopause is really doing to our relationships. Katie shares what she sees when couples come to her — almost always in roommate mode, functioning well as a household but emotionally disconnected. She talks about how perimenopause becomes the catalyst that forces couples to do the deeper work, why both partners need to understand this season of life, and what shifts when the person who has always kept the peace finally starts to wake up. This is a conversation about relationships, identity, and why midlife might be the most important portal you'll ever walk through — together. Katie Rössler hosts the weekly podcast Relationship Reset and works with couples who have been together more than ten years. Find her at katierossler.com. Website: https://www.katierossler.com Podcast: https://www.katierossler.com/podcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@katierossler Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipResetwithKatie…
People in this episode
Host: Erica Voell
Guest: Katie Rössler
Topics covered
- midlife relationships
- perimenopause
- couples counseling
- emotional disconnection
- identity
- relationship dynamics
Keywords
- perimenopause
- relationships
- couples counseling
- emotional disconnection
- midlife
- identity
- relationship dynamics
Mentioned in this episode
Organizations: Relationship Reset, katierossler.com
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