About this episode

Christine Dillard shares her experiences with coercive control and the journey to reclaiming her identity after a long marriage.

In this deeply moving episode, Rachel sits down with Christine a Fortune 500 director, single mother, and author of the memoir The Truth She Showed Me. Christine bravely unpacks her 17-year marriage, a relationship defined not by physical violence, but by the insidious, invisible wounds of coercive control. KEY TAKEAWAYS Abuse Isn't Always Physical: Coercive control operates through the slow, subtle erosion of a person's identity and autonomy. It is often maintained through micro-moments and subtle manipulations rather than explosive, visible events. The Body Keeps the Score: Psychological and emotional abuse can manifest in severe physical symptoms. Christine experienced autoimmune issues, high blood pressure, racing heart rates, sweating, and chronic insomnia as a direct result of her environment. The Power of a "Tone": For victims of coercive control, a simple shift in their abuser's tone of voice can trigger a full-body trauma response. The body shuts down into a state of "fight, flight, or freeze," even if outsiders cannot perceive the threat. Strategic Exits are Crucial: Leaving a controlling relationship safely often requires careful, covert planning. Christine executed a…

Topics covered

• coercive control
• gaslighting
• emotional abuse
• mental health
• self-improvement

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