About this episode

Marci Hopkins interviews Valerie Rubin about anxious attachment, fear of abandonment, and healing the nervous system to improve relationships.

Do you constantly fear being abandoned, overthink your relationships, or find yourself attracted to emotionally unavailable partners? In this episode of Wake Up with Marci, Marci sits down with Valerie Rubin, an anxious attachment specialist and trauma-informed somatic coach, to explore how anxious attachment develops, why fear of abandonment feels so overwhelming, and how healing your nervous system can completely transform the way you experience love and life. Valerie shares practical insights into breaking unhealthy relationship patterns, regulating your nervous system, and building secure, fulfilling relationships after trauma. If you've ever struggled with relationship anxiety, people-pleasing, or emotional insecurity, this conversation offers hope and a path toward lasting healing. In this episode, you'll learn: * What anxious attachment really is * The root causes of fear of abandonment * Why we attract emotionally unavailable partners * How healing your nervous system supports emotional resilience * Steps to build secure, healthy, and fulfilling relationships 🎧 New episodes every Thursday. Watch & listen on YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Spreaker, iHeartRadio, and…

People in this episode

Host: Marci Hopkins

Guest: Valerie Rubin

Topics covered

• anxious attachment
• fear of abandonment
• healing nervous system
• relationship patterns
• emotional resilience
• trauma recovery

Keywords

• anxious attachment
• fear of abandonment
• emotional availability
• relationship anxiety
• nervous system healing
• trauma-informed coaching
• healthy relationships

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Instagram, YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Spreaker, iHeartRadio, ONNJ, valerierubin.com

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