How to give the gift of feedback, with Katie Ceccarini

About this episode

Dan and Pia discuss the challenges of giving feedback with leadership coach Katie Ceccarini, exploring how to make feedback constructive and less intimidating.

🎧 Three reasons to listen Make feedback less scary and more useful – learn why most feedback triggers defensiveness and how to avoid it Get a practical framework you can use immediately – mindset, relationship, and delivery Handle difficult conversations with confidence – be honest and direct without damaging trust Episode overview In this episode, Dan and Pia are joined by Katie O’Brien Ceccarini , leadership coach and author of Fearless Feedback , to tackle one of the most challenging aspects of leadership: feedback. They explore why feedback often creates fear and resistance—and how to reframe it as a constructive, human conversation. Katie shares her Fearless Feedback framework , focusing on mindset, trust, and practical delivery, helping leaders move from awkward, avoided conversations to clear, confident, and growth-oriented dialogue . Memorable moments “No, I’m not.” – Katie’s honest story of being labelled defensive (while feeling embarrassed internally) The finding that 90% of people don’t want to hear “Can I give you feedback?” The “food in your teeth” analogy for why feedback should be timely A powerful reframe: “Feedback without action is criticism.” The shift from…

People in this episode

Hosts: Dan Hammond, Pia Lee

Guest: Katie O’Brien Ceccarini

Topics covered

• feedback
• leadership
• communication
• trust
• mindset

Keywords

• feedback
• leadership
• communication
• trust
• mindset
• difficult conversations
• constructive criticism

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Fearless Feedback

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