How Can We Get The Spark Back? Strategies for Long-Term Relationship Intimacy
From What Your Therapist Thinks by Felicia Keller Boyle & Kristie Plantinga
April 15, 2026 · 58 min · Season 2 · Episode 8
About this episode
Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh joins the hosts to discuss strategies for maintaining long-term intimacy in relationships, particularly in the context of parenthood.
Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh, psychologist and marriage expert, joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack the strategies for long-term intimacy. They discuss the emotional aspect of desire: how mental load and systemic stressors can make or break the spark in parenthood. Some takeaways: • Why spontaneity fails when it meets the exhausting logistics of parenthood. • The difference between intentional pursuit and weaponized incompetence. • How to start integrating emotional safety into your connection. • How mental load influences your libido more than "lost attraction" does. For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Join our Substack community Follow WYTT on Instagram Follow Felicia on Instagram Connect with Lindsay. Follow Lindsay on Instagram. Listen to Lindsay’s Podcast: Married After Kids . *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision . If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional…
People in this episode
Hosts: Kristie Plantinga, Felicia Keller Boyle
Guest: Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh
Topics covered
- relationship intimacy
- parenthood
- emotional safety
- mental load
- desire
- libido
Keywords
- relationship strategies
- intimacy
- mental load
- parenthood
- emotional connection
- libido
- desire
Sponsors
BestTherapists.com
Mentioned in this episode
Books & works: Married After Kids
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