What Your Therapist Thinks

Therapists Julie Goldberg joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack the mechanics of nervous system regulation and offer a practical, somatic perspective on mental health. They explore the range of human response from fight-or-flight to shutdown. This episode reframes anxiety and burnout away from personal failures to adaptive physiological responses designed to keep you safe.Some takeaways:• The differences between safety, mobilization and shutdown.• Why the goal isn't permanent calm but building resilience and flexibility.• How our bodies naturally find safety in the presence of another regulated human.• Changing the narrative from "What's wrong with me?" to "What is my body trying to tell me?"• Simple somatic techniques to help navigate your stress.For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Join our Substack communityFollow WYTT on Instagram Follow Felicia on Instagram Connect with Julie. Follow Julie on Instagram.Join Julie’s Course: Regulate with the Nervous System Reset Course*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle*Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks*Brought to you by BestTherapists.com*Produced by PodVision.If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it!This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Erica Bonham, LPC, MA joins Kristie and Felicia to demystify EMDR therapy and how it actually works to heal the brain. They explore how bilateral stimulation mimics REM sleep to "unstick" traumatic memories trapped in the nervous system. Erica advocates for a bottom-up approach to recovery to address the somatic and emotional roots of distress.Some takeaways:• How bilateral stimulation helps the brain reprocess• Why a somatic approach is often more effective than cognitive insight• How to develop compassion for the internal mechanisms that try to keep us safeFor sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.comJoin our Substack communityFollow WYTT on InstagramFollow Felicia on InstagramEpisode referenced: What Type Of Trauma Do I Have? Understanding TraumaUse our promo code "WYTT" for up to 20% Off at CozyEarth.com.Connect with EricaFollow Erica on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and YouTubeRead Erica’s Book: Always Enough, Never Done.*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle*Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks*Brought to you by BestTherapists.com*Produced by PodVision.If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it!This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Author and counselor KC Davis, LPC joins Kristie and Felicia to break down the shame often associated with a messy home. They unpack the life-changing mindset of moral neutrality, meaning that your ability to do laundry is not a reflection of your character. KC supports shifting away from society’s standards of "tidiness" to a sustainable approach that prioritizes your mental health.Some takeaways:• Why struggling with dishes doesn't make you a "bad" person• How to look at house chores as a way to make your space livable instead of a never-ending to-do list.• Using hacks like larger trash cans or paper plates to manage your home during difficult mental health seasons.• Why self-compassion is better motivation than guilt when you're feeling overwhelmed.For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.comJoin our Substack communityFollow WYTT on InstagramFollow Felicia on InstagramUse our promo code "WYTT" for up to 20% Off at CozyEarth.comConnect with KCFollow KC on Instagram, Facebook and TikTokRead KC’s books: How to Keep House While Drowning and Who Deserves Your Love*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle*Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks*Brought to you by BestTherapists.com*Produced by PodVision.If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it!This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Dr. Rebeccah Lyle, a psychiatric nurse practitioner, joins Kristie and Felicia to explore the nuanced reality of ADHD in women and AFAB individuals. Together, they break down how social expectations of "good behavior" sometimes mask ADHD symptoms in girls, leading to life-changing diagnoses in adulthood when the pressures of career and motherhood reach a breaking point.Some takeaways:Reframing neurological differences as strengthsUnderstanding the psychological toll of masking and how it inevitably leads to burnoutShifting the narrative from self-blame for a "lack of discipline" to advocating for systemic accommodations and self-compassionFor sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.comJoin our Substack communityFollow WYTT on InstagramFollow Felicia on InstagramConnect with RebeccahMentioned in this episode: Am I Emotionally Numb? Signs Of Emotional Numbness and What To Do Next (WYTT, Season 1)*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle*Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks*Brought to you by BestTherapists.com*Produced by PodVision.If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it!This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

In this special episode, hosts Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle share their own mental health journeys and what led them to create "What Your Therapist Thinks". Drawing from Felicia’s professional background as a somatic therapist and Kristie’s lived experience as a long-time therapy goer, they discuss navigating chronic illness, childhood isolation, the "good kid" trap and why breaking the stigma of silence is the first step toward true healing.Some takeaways:The "Sensitive Kid to Therapist" pipeline and why high-achievers often hide their painWhy healing happens both inside and outside the therapy room through somatics and communityThe power of self-forgiveness and the freedom to change your mind and your lifeFor sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.comBe the first to join the upcoming WYTT SubstackFollow Felicia on InstagramFollow WYTT on Instagram*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle*Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks*Connect with us on Instagram: @wyttpodcast*Brought to you by BestTherapists.com*Produced by PodVisionIf you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it!This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Shelly Qualter, an expert counselor, joins Kristie and Felicia to talk everything on performance anxiety. Drawing from Shelly’s experience as an expert counselor, they break down performance anxiety as a fear-based emotion arising from uncertainty, feeling threatened, or being out of control.Some takeaways:The difference between helpful "nervous energy" and debilitating panicHow externalizing anxiety (like giving it a name) fosters control and self-compassionDistinguishing between fact-based worry and baseless "what if" worriesFor sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.comBe the first to join the upcoming WYTT SubstackFollow Felicia on InstagramFollow WYTT on InstagramConnect with ShellyFollow Shelly on Instagram*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle*Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks*Connect with us on Instagram: @wyttpodcast*Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision.If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it!This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Certified sex therapist Amalia Miralrio joins Felicia and Kristie to talk everything cheating. Drawing from her psychoanalytic expertise, Amalia breaks down infidelity as an unconscious drive. She explains where it can originate from and why this inner conflict leads to a struggle for autonomy.Some takeaways:How unconscious drives work as a motivation for cheatingThe connection between infidelity and early developmental issuesHow this inner conflict often leads to a repetition compulsionBalancing the human needs for intimacy versus freedomFor sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.comBe the first to join the upcoming WYTT SubstackFollow Felicia on InstagramFollow WYTT on InstagramConnect with Amalia:Amity Detroit CounselingFollow Amalia on InstagramFreebie: Guide for Getting Cheated On*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle*Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks*Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision.If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it!This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Licensed clinical social worker Kenny Levine joins Kristie and Felicia to explore the destructive power of contempt in relationships. Drawing from the Gottman method, Kenny breaks down the "Four Horsemen" of conflict, explaining how to identify warning signs like contempt and why addressing this early is a must for maintaining a healthy partnership.Some takeaways:How contempt is a red flag for a relationship's healthThe difference between resentment and contemptMaintaining a five-to-one ratio of positive to negative interactionsWhy addressing issues early on is key to preventing the buildup of hopelessnessFor sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.comBe the first to join the upcoming WYTT SubstackFollow Felicia on InstagramFollow WYTT on InstagramResources:Connect with Kenny LevineKenny's Coaching Practice*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle*Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks*Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision.If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it!This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Ketamine specialist Shannon York joins Kristie and Felicia to chat about the transformative world of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP). Shannon breaks down how it’s different from purely medical ketamine treatment, debunks common myths, and explores how (KAP) can quiet the brain's default mode network to accelerate healing. Some takeaways:- Ketamine as a medical treatment vs. an assistant to psychotherapy- Why setting a clear intention is a non-negotiable step- How KAP can make you more receptive to change- The importance of a strong therapeutic alliance to experience this safelyFor sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.comBe the first to join the upcoming WYTT SubstackFollow Felicia on InstagramFollow WYTT on InstagramConnect with Shannon. Get Shannon’s freebie for Loved Ones here!*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle*Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks*Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision.If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it!This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Licensed Therapist Mary Beth Somich joins Kristie and Felicia to demystify the concept of enmeshment in families, especially between mothers and sons. They look at what enmeshment actually means (hint: blurred boundaries and no space for individuality), where it comes from, and why it’s so tough to break free from. Some takeaways:How enmeshment manifests in real lifeThe effects of enmeshment on adult romantic and family relationshipsWhy setting boundaries can often feel like “rocking the boat”How to shift to healthy connections without cutting tiesFor sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.comBe the first to join the upcoming WYTT SubstackFollow Felicia on InstagramFollow WYTT on InstagramConnect with Mary Beth: www.yourjourneythrough.com*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle*Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks*Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision.If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it!This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Drama Therapist Arianna Wheat joins Kristie and Felicia to explore emotional numbness as a coping mechanism for when we feel overwhelmed by intense emotions or past trauma. Arianna believes healing begins with connection—to one’s past, present, and with someone who sees them fully. Some takeaways:How to regulate your nervous systemHyper and hypo-arousal: what are they and why are they relevant?Challenging the “shoulds”Radical acceptance of your emotionsFor sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.comBe the first to join the upcoming WYTT SubstackFollow Felicia on InstagramFollow WYTT on InstagramConnect with Arianna: https://www.soulinsession.com/https://www.instagram.com/soulinsession*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle*Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks*Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision.If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it!This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Coming soon to your headphones! A mental health show where actual, licensed therapists open up about what they’re really thinking, while answering the internet’s most burning mental health questions. And by burning mental health questions, we mean the stuff you’re posting about anonymously on Reddit in the middle of the night.Each week, you’ll hear from expert therapists to break it all down: from emotional numbness and trauma to self-worth and healing. First episodes drop September 10.*Watch full episodes on youtube.com/@WhatYourTherapistThinks*Connect with us on Instagram: @wytt_podcast*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle*Brought to you by BestTherapists.com*Produced by PodVision.This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.