#46: Infertility, Miscarriage & Quiet Grief

About this episode

This episode discusses the often unspoken grief of infertility and miscarriage through the personal experiences of Shumin Lin and Rachel Lim.

Infertility is more common than we think; and it doesn’t just mean struggling to get pregnant. It can also mean waiting for years. Losing a pregnancy. Trying, again and again, with no answers. It’s a kind of grief that lives quietly in the background of so many lives…and often, no one talks about it. In this heartfelt conversation, I sit with Shumin Lin; litigator at Drew & Napier and President of Fertility Support SG. She began IVF at 29 and experienced miscarriage before becoming a mother of two. She shares what it was like to navigate this path before anyone around her was talking about it, and how that pain led her to build a safe space for others. This episode is for anyone who’s walked this road, or loves someone who has. Because this, too, is motherhood. And no one should have to walk it alone. 00:00 Introduction 01:31 Shumin’s Journey: Facing Infertility at 29 04:59 Redefining Infertility: What It Really Means 05:48 Understanding IVF and the Emotional Toll 07:58 Rachel’s Story: Confronting Secondary Infertility 09:03 The Unspoken Grief: Shumin’s Miscarriage Journey 17:00 The Partner’s Role in Navigating Loss 19:08 Letting Go of Control and Unlearning Stigmas 23:27 How to…

People in this episode

Host: Rachel Lim

Guest: Shumin Lin

Topics covered

• infertility
• miscarriage
• grief
• IVF
• motherhood
• support

Keywords

• infertility
• miscarriage
• IVF
• grief
• motherhood
• support
• emotional toll

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Drew & Napier, Fertility Support SG

Places: Singapore

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