Why cutting cords doesn't work

Why cutting cords doesn't work

From WITH LOVE, DANIELLE by Danielle LaPorte

April 17, 2026 · 27 min · Episode 225

About this episode

Danielle LaPorte discusses a more effective way to let go of emotional ties than the traditional method of cutting cords.

There's a better way to let go. I feel somewhat urgent about this conversation. I want to save you from the potential harm and grief that cutting cords can create. You cannot let go of something that you are aggressively trying to let go of. It's like gripping and shaking something that you actually want to put down. I learned this the hard way during a breakup. I did what I was told: invoke the energy, cut the cords. But the visual I had was all these cords being severed, still dangling off each of us. Raw. Hostile. A little bit violent. I still had healing work to do to integrate those manky tendrils hanging off me. It just didn't feel good. For the majority of our angsty, unpleasant entanglements, cutting cords makes things messier than they need to be. Here's the physics: What you push away pushes back and grows stronger. What we embrace transforms us. This is blessing and releasing, and it's what makes for a clean exit. Listen in for some wisdom that I'm throwing down from my new book Bless & Release . And then we're doing the Centering Practice together... Not for someone you've been wanting to cut cords with, but to heal the wounded part of yourself that feels you need to…

People in this episode

Host: Danielle LaPorte

Topics covered

  • letting go
  • healing
  • cord cutting
  • self-improvement
  • personal growth

Keywords

  • cutting cords
  • healing
  • emotional ties
  • self-help
  • personal development

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Bless & Release

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