Is It Me? Carine Van Hee on Toxic Relationships, Gaslighting & Healing After Abuse

From Women Like Me Stories & Business by Julie Fairhurst

June 12, 2026 · 40 min · Episode 227

About this episode

Julie Fairhurst interviews Carine Van Hee about the complexities of toxic relationships and healing from emotional abuse.

Send us Fan Mail “Is it me?” can sound like healthy self-reflection, but in a toxic relationship it can become the trap that keeps you questioning yourself for years. In this episode, Julie Fairhurst sits down with Carine Van Hee, a visual artist living in Norway, survivor of domestic abuse, and author of Is It Me? The Hidden System Behind Toxic Relationships, to put clear language around the confusing reality of emotional abuse, manipulation, coercive control, and gaslighting. Carine shares ...

People in this episode

Host: Julie Fairhurst

Guest: Carine Van Hee

Topics covered

toxic relationships
gaslighting
emotional abuse
manipulation
coercive control
healing
survivor stories

Keywords

toxic relationships
gaslighting
emotional abuse
manipulation
coercive control
healing
survivor

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Is It Me? The Hidden System Behind Toxic Relationships