Ep 65: The ONE Question That Silences Shame and Builds Self-Trust

Ep 65: The ONE Question That Silences Shame and Builds Self-Trust

From Words that Change Lives by Helen Packham

April 28, 2025 · 45 min · Episode 65

About this episode

Helen Packham interviews Adam Smith about overcoming negative self-talk and building self-trust through changing inner dialogue.

Helen speaks with coach Adam Smith about the stories we tell ourselves and how they shape everything. From negative self-talk to the pressure to prove ourselves, Adam shares how he broke free from old patterns and now helps others do the same. Together, they explore how changing your inner dialogue can shift your whole life.  Starting with just a few simple words. Here are the highlights: 00:00 Introduction 02:32 Reframing anxiety: the language we use shapes our reality 09:48 Formative voices become our inner critic 13:55 Why high achievers often struggle with low self-esteem 18:08 Social media validation and the craving to be seen 23:27 Shame vs guilt: the danger of attaching identity to actions 27:09 Interrupting the spiral: the power of a more helpful thought 32:13 Emotional regulation starts with letting yourself feel 36:18 The healthiest choice might not be what you think it is 42:26 “Have you had enough pain yet?” The question that sparks change About Adam Smith: From depressed and suicidal to the happiest and fittest he’s ever been, Adam’s self-development journey hasn’t been easy but it has been worth it. Today, he is a  qualified in neuro-linguistic programming…

People in this episode

Host: Helen Packham

Guest: Adam Smith

Topics covered

  • self-trust
  • shame
  • inner dialogue
  • self-improvement
  • coaching

Keywords

  • self-talk
  • shame
  • self-esteem
  • neuro-linguistic programming
  • emotional regulation

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