How to Stop Doing Everything

About this episode

This episode explores the motivations behind our workload decisions and challenges the belief that we must do everything ourselves.

If you’ve ever thought to yourself ‘if I don’t do it, no one will’ this episode is for you. You tell yourself something important will go wrong if you don't do it all - but what if that's not what's actually driving your decisions? In this Quick Dip, Rachel suggests something uncomfortable: that the decisions running your workload might less to do with patient safety than they are to do with who you believe yourself to be. Because the question 'if I don't do it, who else will?' is often not about the risk of harm to patients, customers or colleagues – but more about the question ‘who am I if I don’t?’. And learning to spot the difference between the two will give you back some choice over your workload. Resources Mentioned The Shapes Academy You Are Not a Frog: The Over-Responsibility Trap series Part 1: Why Responsibility Keeps Landing on You Part 2: When ‘Can You Help?’ Doesn’t Feel Like a Question Part 3: How to Stop Feeling Guilty When It’s Impossible to Do Your Job Get more episodes and resources by joining FrogXtra Mentioned in this episode: FrogXtra Gold Join the Frog podcast community 🟦 Learn More About Our Training

People in this episode

Host: Dr Rachel Morris

Topics covered

• workload management
• responsibility
• self-identity
• decision making
• patient safety

Keywords

• workload
• responsibility
• patient safety
• self-identity
• decision making

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: The Shapes Academy

Books & works: You Are Not a Frog: The Over-Responsibility Trap series

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