Control vs Connection | Why Trying to Help Is Pushing People Away w/ Veenu Keller

About this episode

In this episode, Mike Cole discusses the dynamics of control and connection in relationships with guest Veenu Keller.

Send us Fan Mail Control doesn’t come from strength. It comes from fear. The fear of not being understood. The fear of things falling apart. The fear of losing connection… so we try to control it. And without realizing it, we start fixing, pushing, and “helping”—calling it love… while the people closest to us feel managed instead of met. In this episode of Your Thoughts, Your Reality, I sit down with Veenu Keller, parent coach and child behavioral specialist, to break down one of ...

People in this episode

Host: Mike Cole

Guest: Veenu Keller

Topics covered

• control
• connection
• parenting
• behavioral coaching
• relationships

Keywords

• control
• connection
• parent coach
• behavioral specialist
• relationships
• fear
• helping

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