How to Forgive (Even When You Don’t Want To)

How to Forgive (Even When You Don’t Want To)

From A Really Good Cry by iHeartPodcasts

March 31, 2026 · 27 min · Episode 102

About this episode

Radhi explores the concept of forgiveness as a personal journey towards healing and peace.

What if forgiveness isn’t about the person who hurt you, but about your own peace? Can anger be a disguise for deeper feelings like guilt or betrayal? Is it possible to forgive without ever speaking to someone again? How do you release trauma that keeps looping in your body and mind?   In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi explores forgiveness as a one-person process, a choice made for your own healing, not for anyone else. She explains why forgiveness must be voluntary and intentional, and how societal pressure can make it feel performative.   Radhi also distinguishes between “big T” trauma, like abuse or loss, and “little t” daily grievances, sharing stories from survivors and her experiences in Rwanda after the 1994 genocide. She breaks down how anger can physically manifest and keep you tied to past pain.   The episode walks you through the four stages of forgiveness: Hate, Hurt, Understanding, and Release — practical steps to untie the emotional knot and reclaim your peace.   In this episode, you’ll learn: Why forgiveness is for you, not them. The difference between forgiveness and reconciliation. How anger…

People in this episode

Host: Radhi

Topics covered

  • forgiveness
  • healing
  • trauma
  • anger
  • emotional health
  • personal growth

Keywords

  • forgiveness
  • trauma
  • anger
  • emotional healing
  • personal growth
  • mental health
  • reconciliation

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Places: Rwanda

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