About this episode

In this episode, Robert Adams discusses the importance of refilling oneself as a leader and the structural disciplines necessary to maintain that capacity.

This week's Play: Schedule thirty minutes with the person who refills you. The leader who has nothing left to give already stopped leading. In this episode of A Student of Leadership, Robert Adams returns to The Spoon, the fifth element of the Place Setting Framework, with the question almost no one is asking. Who pours into the leader doing the pouring? The Place Setting Framework did not start in a conference room. It started at a kitchen table, where Robert's mother poured into a catering business, aging parents in caregiving, family, staff, and neighbors with a capacity that did not run out, because she had built three structural disciplines for staying full enough to keep pouring. In this episode: - Why "the leader who has nothing left to give already stopped leading" is a structural observation, not a sentimental one - The original Spoon: what Robert watched his mother do, decades before he had the language to name it - The three things she protected that nobody around her noticed - Why most leaders skip refilling in their thirties to climb, and most pay for it in their fifties - The three categories every leader refills in or pays for skipping: relational, physical…

People in this episode

Host: Robert Adams

Topics covered

• leadership
• self-care
• personal growth
• refilling
• Place Setting Framework

Keywords

• leadership
• refill discipline
• self improvement
• relational
• physical
• reflective

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