About this episode

In this episode, Alastair Duhs interviews Matthew about breaking the cycle of anger in his relationship.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . Have you ever felt like small frustrations slowly build up until suddenly you’re snapping at the person you care about most? You tell yourself you’ll do better next time, but the same pattern keeps repeating, leaving you feeling frustrated, guilty or stuck. In this episode of The Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs speaks with Matthew, a husband who found himself caught in a cycle of escalating arguments that were damaging trust in his relationship. Although he didn’t see himself as someone with a major anger problem, underlying stress and unprocessed emotions were turning everyday situations into conflict. You’ll hear how Matthew learned to recognise his early warning signs of anger, slow down his reactions and use practical tools to shift from conflict to cooperation, rebuilding calm communication and creating positive change at home. What you’ll learn in this episode: -Why anger often shows up through small moments rather than big events -How frustration can build quietly until it suddenly explodes -The importance of recognising where you are on the Tension Scale -Why thoughts don’t have…

People in this episode

Host: Alastair Duhs

Guest: Matthew

Topics covered

• anger management
• relationship dynamics
• emotional awareness
• conflict resolution
• communication skills

Keywords

• anger
• frustration
• communication
• emotions
• conflict
• Tension Scale
• relationship

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