176 - 5 Ways to Handle Someone Else's Anger

176 - 5 Ways to Handle Someone Else's Anger

From Anger Secrets by Alastair Duhs

March 15, 2026 · 11 min · Episode 176

About this episode

Alastair Duhs shares five practical ways to respond to someone else's anger effectively.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com . In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares five practical ways to respond when someone else's anger is directed at you. Whether it's a partner who explodes, a colleague who unloads or a family member who pushes your buttons, how you respond in those moments matters more than you might think. Rather than fighting back or shutting down, Alastair explains how staying calm, using empathy and setting clear boundaries can completely change the dynamic, without accepting blame or tolerating abuse. Key Takeaways: You staying calm is the most powerful thing in the room. Responding with your own anger only escalates the situation. Managing your nervous system first changes everything. Most of the time, someone else's anger isn't really about you. Recognising this creates distance from the heat and prevents unnecessary conflict. Anger is usually just the surface. Underneath it is almost always something softer - hurt, fear, or feeling unheard. Empathy shifts the conversation faster than any argument. Boundaries aren't threats. A calm, clear statement of what you will and won't accept creates more safety in a…

People in this episode

Host: Alastair Duhs

Topics covered

  • anger management
  • empathy
  • boundaries
  • conflict resolution
  • mental health

Keywords

  • anger
  • empathy
  • calmness
  • boundaries
  • conflict

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