Your Child Isn't Lying. They're Code-Switching. Here's What That Means.

About this episode

The episode discusses the concept of code-switching in children and how it affects their behavior and communication between parents.

Your child cried at your house about how much they hate going to their other parent's home. Then you found out they had a great time. Or they came home from your ex's house perfectly happy, when you expected them to be upset. Or they told you one thing — and told your ex something completely different. It can feel like a betrayal. Or proof that something is wrong at the other house. Or maybe it makes you doubt your own perception of what's happening. Here's what's actually going...

People in this episode

Hosts: Chris, Lisa

Topics covered

• code-switching
• parenting
• communication
• emotional expression
• family dynamics

Keywords

• code-switching
• children
• parenting
• emotional behavior
• family communication

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