3.16 Why are you so mean to yourself!?

About this episode

The episode discusses the impact of self-criticism and childhood experiences on personal growth and mental health.

What you say to yourself — even as a joke, even about your younger self — shapes the internal environment you actually live in. This week, Laura is deep in writing her first book, which means facing childhood trauma, her chaotic twenties, and all the sharp judgment that comes with it. Claire, speaking as a therapist (but not your therapist), explains why self-criticism rarely drives lasting change, how shame bleeds into the present, and why grace has to be all-or-nothing: if you can't extend ...

People in this episode

Hosts: Laura Quick, Claire Fierman

Topics covered

• self-criticism
• mental health
• childhood trauma
• personal growth
• self-judgment

Keywords

• self-criticism
• mental health
• childhood trauma
• personal growth
• self-judgment
• shame
• grace

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