Don't compare and despair - study!

Don't compare and despair - study!

From Before You Kill Yourself: a suicide prevention podcast. by Leo Flowers

April 6, 2026 · 6 min · Episode 815

About this episode

This episode discusses the detrimental effects of comparison on identity and promotes a mindset shift towards studying for personal growth.

In this episode, I break down the difference between comparing and studying — and why one leads to despair while the other leads to growth. We’re going to talk about how comparison quietly attacks your identity, and how to shift into a mindset that builds strategy instead of shame. In this episode: Why “comparison leads to despair” is psychologically true The difference between ranking yourself and studying patterns How comparison turns into identity damage Why studying others builds skill without shrinking your self-worth A simple mindset shift you can use immediately Stop asking, “Where do I rank?” Start asking, “What can I learn?” Thrive With Leo Coaching :  If you want to reduce your psychological pain, regain your purpose and forge your own path, go to  www.thrivewithleo.com to begin your journey. If you or anyone you know is considering suicide or self-harm, or is anxious, depressed, upset, or needs to talk, there are people who want to help: In the US:  Crisis Text Line : Text CRISIS to 741741 for free, confidential crisis counseling.  The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline : 1-800-273-8255 or 988 The Trevor Project : 1-866-488-7386 Outside the US…

Topics covered

  • comparison
  • despair
  • identity
  • mindset
  • growth

Keywords

  • psychological pain
  • self-worth
  • mindset shift
  • learning

Mentioned in this episode

Products: Thrive With Leo Coaching

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