The One About Suicide 💔🫂

About this episode

The episode discusses the complexities and stigmas surrounding suicide and suicidal ideation in a candid and human way.

We need to talk about suicide… like actually talk about it. Not in the polished, clinical, tip-list way. Not in the fear-based, “don’t say the wrong thing” way. But in the real, messy, human way that most of us have experienced—whether personally or through someone we love. Because here’s the truth: suicide is way more common, complex, and misunderstood than we’re comfortable admitting. And the way we talk about it? Often makes it harder —not easier—for people to feel seen, supported, or safe enough to open up. In this episode of But For Real , we’re going there. We’re talking about suicidal ideation (including the kind that doesn’t mean you actually want to die), the difference between passive and active thoughts, and why so many people feel ashamed of experiences that are actually more common than we think. We’re also unpacking the tension between holding the weight of this topic and still making space for humanity, humor, and connection—because healing doesn’t only happen in sterile silence. And yes… we’re bringing both the heavy and the real. We’re asking: Why is suicide still so stigmatized—even in mental health spaces? What actually counts as suicidal ideation? Is it…

People in this episode

Hosts: Valerie Martin, Emerson Ryder

Topics covered

• suicide
• mental health
• suicidal ideation
• shame
• stigma
• human connection

Keywords

• suicide
• mental health
• shame
• stigma
• suicidal thoughts
• human connection
• healing

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