Reclaiming Your Desire: The 5 Things That Will Make or Break Your Marriage, Career, & Mental Health

About this episode

The episode explores the concept of desire and its impact on marriage, career, and mental health through a conversation with psychotherapist Jay Stringer.

What if everything you've been labeling as a problem — the addiction, the affair, the marriage that feels like a hostage situation, the career that's slowly killing you — is actually a prophet trying to get your attention? Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill sit down with Jay Stringer, psychotherapist, ordained minister, and author of Desire, for one of the most searingly honest conversations about human longing, emotional health, and the hidden roadmap inside every one of us. Jay spent years studying why people engage in unwanted behaviors — and what he found wasn't weakness or moral failure. He found desire. Vandalized, suppressed, and rerouted desire. And he found that healing the root — not just managing the symptom — changes everything. In This Episode Why "just stop doing the thing" almost never works — and what to do instead The 5 core desires every human has (and why over-indexing on one destroys the others) The concept of the "provisional self" and why so many people wake up at 60 not knowing who they are What bells and albatrosses can teach you about the direction your life is asking you to go The DMZs in your marriage — and why avoiding them is quietly…

People in this episode

Hosts: Dr. Glenn Hill, Phyllis Hill

Guest: Jay Stringer

Topics covered

• desire
• emotional health
• marriage
• career
• mental health
• human longing

Keywords

• desire
• emotional health
• marriage
• career
• mental health
• unwanted behaviors
• Core Emotion Wheel
• provisional self

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Desire

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