About this episode

Hiubert and Xiomara share their journey of overcoming emotional disconnection in their marriage and how they became effective leaders through the Connection Codes.

What does it look like to lead hundreds of people every week — and have no idea you're quietly breaking down inside your own marriage? Hiubert and Xiomara are Connection Codes certified coaches,former associate pastors, worship leaders, and evangelists who spent nearly twodecades in ministry. From the outside, everything looked like it was working.On the inside, they were burned out, emotionally disconnected, and — withoutknowing it — grieving separately in a marriage that had no language for whatthey were carrying. In this episode, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill sit down withHiubert and Xiomara to hear the whole story: how two miscarriages exposed agrief they'd never named together, how Hiubert moved from dismissing emotionsas weakness to going on what he calls a "repentance tour" witheveryone he'd ever led, and how the Core Emotion Wheel and Connection Codescourses gave them the tools to become not just a healthier couple — but moreconnected, trusted leaders. Their story doesn't stop at their own front door. Within weeksof learning the Core Wheel, they were on a stage in Mexico City teaching it inSpanish. They've since brought Connection Codes to communities across the…

People in this episode

Hosts: Dr. Glenn Hill, Phyllis Hill

Guests: Hiubert, Xiomara

Topics covered

• marriage
• leadership
• emotional health
• grief
• connection
• coaching

Keywords

• marriage rebuilding
• emotional disconnection
• leadership
• Core Emotion Wheel
• Connection Codes
• grief
• coaching

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Connection Codes, Mexico City, Ethiopia

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