Why Your Marriage Feels Disconnected (And the Emotional Tool That Actually Fixes It)

About this episode

Ben and Hannah share their journey of emotional disconnection in marriage and the tools that helped them reconnect.

What does it actually look like when one spouse starts doing the emotional work before the other is ready? Ben and Hannah have been married 19 years, raised four kids (including three teenagers), and spent nearly a decade unknowingly drifting apart — until one ordinary walk changed everything. In this episode, Glenn and Phyllis sit down with Ben and Hannah for an honest, unscripted conversation about what it really takes to turn a marriage around. Ben resisted Connection Codes for over a year — and then one moment of Hannah staying present when she could have pulled away shifted everything for him. They talk about the emotional dam, why anger is usually lonely in disguise, how they're raising a 10-year-old with OCD using the Core Emotion Wheel, and what happens when coding becomes the language of your whole household. This one is for the spouse who started the work alone. For the partner who's been resistant. For the parent trying to get emotional tools into a home with teenagers. You're going to want to hear this. In This Episode: Why the first 10 years of marriage can mask deep emotional disconnection What it looks like when one spouse starts coding before the other is ready…

People in this episode

Hosts: Glenn, Phyllis

Guests: Ben, Hannah

Topics covered

• emotional disconnection
• marriage improvement
• parenting with emotional tools
• Core Emotion Wheel
• communication in relationships
• teenage resistance

Keywords

• marriage
• emotional work
• disconnection
• Core Emotion Wheel
• OCD
• teenagers
• communication
• anger
• emotional dam

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Connection Codes

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