Brian and Judson hookup with Bright Light Bright Light and talk career building as an independent artist, befriending your heroes, hypocrisy within the queer community and whether sex is an interesting subject for music

About this episode

Brian and Judson discuss career building and community with electro-pop artist Rod Thomas, exploring themes of friendship, artistic expression, and the queer community.

Brian and Judson are joined by Rod Thomas, aka electro-pop music artist and DJ Bright Light Bright Light! Rod sits down with Brian and Judson just two days before kicking off his co-headling Cosmic Light tour with “Queen of the Universe” winner and “Drag Race Brasil” host, Grag Queen, and talks about his mission with this and every one of his tours to bring joy and build community during these dark and divisive times. He teaches Brian and Judson all about his home country of Wales and its connection to music, he goes deep into his friendships and collaborations with Elton John and Scissor Sisters, and talks about how he has made a name and career for himself without ever signing with a label. They discuss the prevalence of misogyny in the gay community, they share thoughts on maintaining youth and taking risks throughout one’s life, and they debate the importance of sex as a subject of artistic expression. Rod then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a 50 year-old listener in a 25-year open relationship who has never used the gay hookup apps and wants advice about how to start.

People in this episode

Hosts: Brian Rubin-Sowers, Judson Morrow

Guest: Rod Thomas

Topics covered

• career building
• independent artists
• queer community
• musical expression
• friendship
• community building

Keywords

• Bright Light Bright Light
• electro-pop
• Cosmic Light tour
• queer community
• musical collaboration
• gay hookup apps
• artistic expression

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Queen of the Universe, Drag Race Brasil

Places: Wales

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