Brian and Judson hookup with John Paul Brammer and talk about giving advice to the international LGBTQ community, choosing between religions, hookup etiquette, managing queer-specific anxieties, and more

About this episode

Brian and Judson discuss LGBTQ advice and personal stories with guest John Paul Brammer.

Brian and Judson launch the Dads and Daddies Book Club with the arrival of guest John Paul Brammer, famed LGBTQ+ advice columnist and author of ¡Hola Papi! How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons. John Paul tells Brian and Judson all about the origin of his ¡Hola Papi! advice column, how he overcame the feeling that he didn’t have the authority to give advice, and shares how he feels now that he’s retired his column after eight years. He also provides a sneak peek at his next two books, and responds to Brian’s ask for advice by giving his thoughts about steeling oneself against internet commenters. John Paul then goes all the way to the top to discuss his Daddy Issue, which is his recent fascination with Jesus, particularly the comforting discovery that he may not have been attractive, and talks about the time he almost converted to Judaism for a boyfriend. The episode ends with the renowned advice giver joining Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is curious about the etiquette of hooking up when one is hanging out with friends.

People in this episode

Hosts: Brian Rubin-Sowers, Judson Morrow

Guest: John Paul Brammer

Topics covered

• LGBTQ advice
• religion
• hookup etiquette
• queer anxieties
• book club
• personal stories

Keywords

• LGBTQ
• advice column
• hookup
• religion
• anxieties
• book club
• John Paul Brammer

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: ¡Hola Papi! How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons

More episodes of Dads And Daddies

• Brian and Judson hookup with ‘Blue Film’ writer and director Elliot Tuttle and talk adolescent sexuality, slippery morality, what overindexing on queer joy does to taste levels, and Daddying vs fathering · June 9, 2026 · 1h 23m
• Brian and Judson celebrate the launch of Season Three with a Go Ask Your Dad Extravaganza and talk open relationship rules, self-care routines, sex party connections, unpredictable libidos, and more · June 2, 2026 · 1h 18m
• Brian and Judson hookup with Kevin Aviance and talk the pressures of being an icon, making Beyoncé c*nty, ballroom history, what it means to be a Black Queen today, and more · May 26, 2026 · 1h 33m
• Brian and Judson hookup with Zachary Zane and talk Bisexual Audibility, the joys of bottoming, being brave about sex when sober, the value of anger, whether top shortages are a myth, and more · May 19, 2026 · 1h 58m
• Brian and Judson hookup with Nick Wolny and talk generating wealth as queer people, whether poppers are an essential expense, accepting our social inheritances, preparing emotionally and financially for gay events, and more · May 12, 2026 · 1h 25m
• Brian and Judson hookup with The Disappointments creator and star Rich Burns and talk regrets after 50, the path from connection to kink, who decides who’s a Daddy, scheduling sex and more · May 5, 2026 · 1h 32m