Brian and Judson hookup with Mike Fails and Gina Spears and talk queer friendships, surviving trauma, the quest to bottom and messy hookups

About this episode

Brian and Judson discuss queer friendships and personal stories with Mike Fails and Gina Spears.

Brian and Judson joined by hosts of “The Big C*nty Couch” podcast, Mike Fails and drag queen Gina Spears! Mike and Gina reveal the bold choice that first solidified their now fifteen-year friendship before either was out of the closet, the secret sauce that has kept them so close for so long, how they each define their sexuality and what made them decide to create a podcast together. Each also shares personal stories including the origins of the Gina Spears persona, the challenges of the past year since Mike’s husband survived a nightmarish accident, and so much more. Together, the four respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who wants to know how to handle hooking up with someone he likes, but whose home is a complete mess.

People in this episode

Hosts: Brian Rubin-Sowers, Judson Morrow

Guests: Mike Fails, Gina Spears

Topics covered

• queer friendships
• surviving trauma
• sexuality
• podcasting
• messy hookups
• personal stories

Keywords

• queer friendships
• trauma
• sexuality
• podcast
• hookups
• Gina Spears
• Mike Fails

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: The Big C*nty Couch

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