The Right Time To Have Sex: What We Learned The Hard Way (So You Don't Have To)

About this episode

The episode discusses the right timing for sex in relationships and the importance of emotional connection over outdated dating rules.

We often get the question—when is the right time to have sex? In this episode we're digging into what we wish we knew when it came to sex, timing and the intimacy / expectations that come from it. We're discussing the challenge that comes from outdated rules like having sex on the third date, why its less about timing and more about the connection you've built, and how to feel more emotionally confident broaching the subject / deciding together that the time is right. Enjoy! - Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/ Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want…

People in this episode

Hosts: Yue Xu, Julie Krafchick

Topics covered

• timing in relationships
• intimacy
• emotional confidence
• dating advice
• modern dating

Keywords

• sex
• dating
• relationships
• intimacy
• emotional confidence
• dating advice
• timing

Sponsors

Avocado Green Mattress, Brick

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Dateable AI Dating Coach, The Psychology of Relationships, Exit Interview

Products: Brick

Books & works: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love

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