How to Coach Anyone, Including Yourself

How to Coach Anyone, Including Yourself

From excellence, actually by Steve Magness, Brad Stulberg, & Clay Skipper

March 26, 2026 · 41 min

About this episode

The episode discusses lessons in coaching and self-leadership inspired by a viral moment between a coach and player during March Madness.

March Madness has given us some incredible moments between coaches and their players. Today, we use one in particular — the viral moment between Maryland's coach Brenda Frese and star player Oluchi Okananwa (you can watch it at the link below) — as a jumping off point to talk about leading and motivating more broadly. What can all of us learn from the moment between Frese and Okananwa? How should we use and distribute validation? When does intensity help and when does it hurt? When might negative self-talk actually be a good tool to use? This episode is for everyone, because whether you're coaching others or simply trying to better lead yourself, you've got to know how to light a fire without burning down the house. Link to video of Frese-Okananwa: https://x.com/sportingnews/status/2035769026308162041 Get a free LMNT drink mix pack with any purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/Clay Click here for an AI-generated transcript - Subscribe to  The Growth Equation newsletter -  Join The Growth Equation Academy - If you are enjoying "excellence, actually," do us a huge favor: text your favorite episode to three people so they can enjoy it, too. Thanks! iTunes and Apple Podcasts…

People in this episode

Hosts: Steve Magness, Brad Stulberg, Clay Skipper

Topics covered

  • coaching
  • motivation
  • self-leadership
  • validation
  • intensity
  • self-talk

Keywords

  • coaching
  • motivation
  • self-leadership
  • validation
  • intensity
  • negative self-talk
  • March Madness

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