About this episode

This episode features a conversation with Vanessa Marin about pleasure, desire, and intimacy in midlife.

Description:If any conversation belongs squarely in our “The Body Knows: Midlife In Our Skin” series, it’s this one, and for one simple reason — pleasure is a body conversation. Desire is a body conversation. And if midlife has shifted how you feel in your own skin, this episode meets you exactly there. Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist, sex educator, and bestselling author of Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, co-written with her husband Xander. With over two decades of experience helping people dismantle shame and build genuinely intimate relationships, Vanessa brings the kind of candid, warm, and disarmingly funny voice this conversation has always needed. Whether you're partnered or solo, whether your sex life feels complicated or just quietly neglected, whether you're carrying shame you never asked for — this one is for you. Vanessa is here to help us say yes to communication, to connection, and maybe most of all, to pleasure. Here's what we're getting into: Why so many of us have deeply wired, shame-rooted reactions to sex — and where they actually come from Why Vanessa says you should start having sex like a man (yes, really)…

People in this episode

Host: Jen Hatmaker

Guest: Vanessa Marin

Topics covered

• midlife
• pleasure
• sex education
• intimacy
• shame
• desire

Keywords

• pleasure
• midlife
• sex education
• intimacy
• shame
• female orgasm
• desire

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life

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