About this episode

Matt Salis discusses the challenges of emotional disconnection in marriage and shares a framework for rebuilding intimacy and trust.

What happens when you realize your spouse still loves you—but doesn't really like you? After 20 years of marriage, that's the realization Matt Sallas faced. In this episode, Matt shares how addiction, obligation-based sex, and emotional disconnection nearly destroyed his marriage—and the framework that helped rebuild trust, attraction, and intimacy. We discuss emotional safety, emotional masculinity, the difference between reluctant and enthusiastic consent, and Matt's simple "Sex Sequence" for creating a marriage both spouses genuinely enjoy. In this episode: • The difference between love and like in marriage • Why emotional safety matters more than most couples realize • The hidden cost of obligation-based sex • Matt's 3-step Sex Sequence framework • How emotional masculinity strengthens intimacy • The "Always Be Dating" mindset Resources: Matt's relationship survey: untoxicatedsurvey.org Matt's podcast: https://un-toxicated.com/ Get Your Marriage On events: https://getyourmarriageon.com/events Spark'd app: Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the…

People in this episode

Host: Dan Purcell

Guest: Matt Salis

Topics covered

• emotional masculinity
• marriage
• intimacy
• trust
• emotional safety
• consent

Keywords

• emotional masculinity
• marriage
• intimacy
• trust
• obligation-based sex
• Sex Sequence
• emotional safety
• consent

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Get Your Marriage On, untoxicatedsurvey.org, un-toxicated.com, getyourmarriageon.com, Spark'd

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