About this episode

Dan Purcell and Craig Perra discuss the complexities of porn addiction and the path to healing through self-leadership and understanding shame.

Shame thrives in secrecy—but healing doesn't. In this deeply honest conversation, Dan sits down with Craig Perra, a former attorney whose secret life of pornography, strip clubs, prostitution, and compulsive sexual behavior nearly destroyed everything he cared about. After years of trying therapy, recovery groups, and identifying himself as a "sex addict," Craig reached a breaking point. What happened next completely changed how he viewed healing. Together, Dan and Craig explore why destructive behaviors often serve as coping strategies, how shame can keep us trapped, and why true healing begins with self-leadership instead of self-hatred. They discuss: • Why all behavior is need-seeking behavior • The hidden role shame plays in compulsive sexual behavior • Why some experts are moving away from the "sex addiction" label • How Parts Work helps people understand—not fight—themselves • The difference between suppressing urges and building real integrity • Practical hope for anyone feeling stuck in cycles of secrecy Whether you're personally struggling, supporting a spouse, or simply trying to understand how lasting change happens, this episode offers a compassionate and…

People in this episode

Host: Dan Purcell

Guest: Craig Perra

Topics covered

• pornography
• shame
• healing
• self-leadership
• compulsive behavior
• addiction

Keywords

• porn addiction
• healing
• shame
• self-leadership
• compulsive sexual behavior
• therapy
• recovery

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Christian

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