Why You Can't Stop Over-Functioning (+ What It's Really Costing You)

About this episode

The episode explores the roots of over-functioning and unfulfillment in relationships with insights from Dr. Molly Burrets.

What if the reason you feel unhappy in love + life has nothing to do with success… and everything to do with an unhealed relational wound? In this episode of The Healing + Human Potential Podcast , I sit down with clinical psychologist + relationship expert Dr. Molly Burrets to explore why so many high achievers feel unfulfilled in their relationships, their purpose + within themselves. We talk about how over-functioning, self-sabotage + "doing it all" can actually be rooted in deeper emotional patterns formed early in life and how success can sometimes mask the very wounds that are still asking to be seen + healed. Dr. Molly shares how our core values shape our decisions, relationships, and sense of purpose, and how misalignment with those values can quietly lead to dissatisfaction in both love + life. We also explore how unconscious wounds drive partner selection, why we often repeat the same relationship patterns, and what it actually takes to break free. If you've ever felt like you're doing everything right but still feel unfulfilled, stuck in the same relationship dynamics, or unable to truly receive love and support, this episode offers a powerful reframe + a new path…

People in this episode

Host: Alyssa Nobriga

Guest: Dr. Molly Burrets

Topics covered

• over-functioning
• relationship dynamics
• emotional patterns
• self-sabotage
• core values
• unhealed relational wounds

Keywords

• over-functioning
• relationship fulfillment
• emotional wounds
• self-sabotage
• core values
• couples therapy

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: University of Southern California

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