#14| Why Do People Say Hurtful Things After Loss? How to Respond When Their Words Sting
About this episode
This episode discusses the hurtful things people say after loss and how to respond to them.
Have you ever smiled and nodded while your insides were screaming? Has someone minimized your loss with an “at least…” and you felt punched in the chest? Have you felt like you’re not just grieving… you’re also managing other people’s feelings? Do you freeze in the moment and only think of what you wish you said later? Today we’re doing something a little brave. A little raw.We’re talking about the hurtful things people say after loss — not always because they’re cruel, but because they’re uncomfortable, ignorant, or trying to protect themselves from the reality of grief. And if you’ve ever thought, “Why am I having to comfort everyone else while I’m the one shattered?” I need you to hear this: you’re not crazy. You’re exhausted. This episode is different from Episode 13 (Ask a Bereavement Doula). That one was Q&A.This one is about how to protect your heart when grief meets other people’s mouth. Inside this episode, I give you: the 3 categories most hurtful comments fall into a simple 3-step response framework (so you don’t have to think on the spot) scripts in three tones: soft, direct, and spicy and what to do if you freeze, fawn, or explode afterward — because yes, that’s…
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