The Basics of Hate-Scrolling (w/ Yassir Lester, Chelsea Devantez, & Alaska Thunderfuck)
About this episode
The episode explores how online identity affects real-life relationships with guests discussing jealousy and social media interactions.
Joel Kim Booster brings together three guests he’s almost scared to put in the same room — writer/actor Yassir Lester, writer-director Chelsea Devantez, and Drag Race All Star Season 2 Winner, Alaska Thunderfuck — to dig into how online identity messes with real-life relationships. The icebreaker is pulled straight from Chelsea’s movie Basic: name the person you hate-scroll most. The group swaps stories on jealousy-fueled Instagram deep-dives, building an entire villain out of an ex’s social media, and the specific chaos of getting deep-liked years after a breakup. Alaska shares the surreal experience of getting DMs after announcing her engagement, ranking her fiancé against her ex (“in the bedroom too”). Plus: where to draw the line between staying authentic online and protecting your partner from strangers with opinions. Subscribe to SmartLess Media on YouTube for full episodes, and follow @intimacycoordinatorshow on Instagram and TikTok for clips. Joel Kim Booster: @ihatejoelkim · Loot Season 3 (Apple TV+) · Fire Island (Hulu) · Psychosexual (Netflix) Alaska: @theonlyalaska5000 · Mary Todd Lincoln in Oh Mary! · Drag Race All Stars Season 2 Winner (Paramount+) · Race Chaser…
People in this episode
Host: Joel Kim Booster
Guests: Yassir Lester, Chelsea Devantez, Alaska Thunderfuck
Topics covered
- online identity
- real-life relationships
- social media
- jealousy
- breakup
- authenticity
Keywords
- hate-scrolling
- DMs
- engagement
- ex-partners
- social media chaos
Mentioned in this episode
Organizations: SmartLess Media
Books & works: Basic, Loot Season 3, Fire Island, Psychosexual, Oh Mary!, I Shouldn't Be Telling You This (But I'm Going To Anyway), Glamorous Trash: A Celebrity Memoir, The Gutter, Black Monday, Race Chaser Podcast
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