Are We Attracting Ourselves? Why You’re Entertaining What You Say You Don’t Want (Featuring Lil D)

Are We Attracting Ourselves? Why You’re Entertaining What You Say You Don’t Want (Featuring Lil D)

From It's About DAMN Time by Jarratt DAMN, DaWholeDamnShow

July 21, 2026 · 53 min · Episode 210

About this episode

The episode explores the concept of attracting what you are and the importance of self-reflection in relationships.

This week, I’m back with friend of the show, Dee 'Lil D' Porter, and we had to talk about a phrase that sounds good…until you really sit with it. “You attract who you are.” Do you though? Or are you just letting people stay who never should’ve had access in the first place? We get real about self-esteem, patterns, and the truth about why you keep ending up in the same situations with different people. From wild dating stories to hard accountability, this conversation isn’t about blaming others. It’s about looking in the mirror and asking better questions. Because at some point…you gotta stop saying “this keeps happening to me” and start asking “why do I keep allowing this?” What We Talk About The difference between attraction and tolerance How low self-esteem shows up in your dating choices Why “they like me” is not a good enough reason to stay The role of boundaries in who gets access to you Recognizing misalignment early and what to do about it Why potential will keep you stuck longer than reality The truth about outgrowing people and relationships It’s About DAMN Time… It’s about damn time I stop confusing understanding someone with excusing them. D.A.M.N. Challenge Take a…

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Host: Jarratt DAMN

Guest: Dee 'Lil D' Porter

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