About this episode

The episode discusses the disconnect between performing well in sex and experiencing personal pleasure, featuring insights from somatic sexologist Janelle Toussaint.

Ever been in the middle of sex…and realize you’re not even there? Yeah. We’re talking about that. This episode gets real about what it means to be “good” at sex but still feel disconnected from your own pleasure. If you’ve ever found yourself overthinking, performing, or focusing more on your partner than yourself…you’re not alone. I’m joined by somatic sexologist Janelle Toussaint, and I put myself in the hot seat. We unpack why so many of us struggle to relax during sex, how being stuck in your head shows up in your body, and what it actually takes to experience real pleasure. This isn’t just about sex. This is about presence, control, and finally learning how to receive. What We Talk About Why you might be performing instead of actually feeling The connection between people-pleasing and sexual pleasure What it means to be “in your body” vs stuck in your head How mindfulness and everyday habits impact your sex life Why asking for what you want feels so hard The role of safety, communication, and self-awareness in intimacy Practical ways to start reconnecting with your body today It’s About DAMN Time Segment It’s about damn time you admit the kind of sex you actually want. Not…

People in this episode

Host: Jarratt DAMN

Guest: Janelle Toussaint

Topics covered

• sexual pleasure
• mindfulness
• people-pleasing
• intimacy
• self-awareness
• presence

Keywords

• sex
• pleasure
• mindfulness
• intimacy
• self-awareness
• people-pleasing
• relaxation
• body awareness

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