About this episode

Jillian helps a listener understand the difference between pursuing and chasing in relationships and emphasizes the importance of self-fulfillment.

In this coaching session, Jillian helps a listener untangle what he thought was anxious attachment and reveals what may actually be happening instead: he’s getting emotionally invested before a real relationship has even begun. She breaks down the difference between pursuing and chasing, why texting can create a false sense of intimacy, and how to stop wasting energy on people who aren’t truly showing up. This episode is also a powerful reminder that the more alive, engaged, and fulfilled you feel in your own life, the less likely you are to confuse attention with connection. Download Jillian’s FREE limerence workbook, http://jillianturecki.com/workbook Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://forms.gle/FbtgkGTwfnrjvHwW7 Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Threads: @jillianturecki YouTube: @jillian.turecki Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki…

People in this episode

Host: Jillian Turecki

Topics covered

• anxious attachment
• emotional investment
• pursuing vs chasing
• false intimacy
• self-fulfillment

Keywords

• anxious attachment
• emotional investment
• pursuing
• chasing
• intimacy
• self-fulfillment
• relationships

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Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Daylight Media

Products: limerence workbook, It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life

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