seeking validation is a human need, not a flaw

seeking validation is a human need, not a flaw

From Joy with Kendall by Kendall Joy

April 6, 2026 · 11 min

About this episode

This episode discusses the natural human need for validation and offers a compassionate perspective on navigating it healthily.

In this episode, I discuss the often misunderstood concept of validation seeking. Seeking validation is a natural human need and this episode offers a compassionate perspective on navigating it healthily without guilt or shame. Key topics Validation seeking is human and necessary to some extent The societal demonization of validation behaviors The importance of self-awareness and middle ground in validation How community and connection foster feelings of being seen and chosen The significance of open communication about needs and insecurities Recognizing that validation seeking isn't inherently bad or toxic How to ask for validation and reassurance in real-time The impacts of childhood experiences on adult validation behaviors Overcoming hyper-independence by building community and trust Encouragement to reframe validation as a tool for self-growth journal prompt: how do you judge others or yourself for seeking validation? Friendly reminder that you can not fulfill your need of being fully seen unless you put yourself out there to do so!! XOXO Infinity, Kendall Joy https://linktr.ee/joywithkendall

People in this episode

Host: Kendall Joy

Topics covered

  • validation seeking
  • self-awareness
  • community and connection
  • open communication
  • childhood experiences
  • hyper-independence
  • self-growth

Keywords

  • validation
  • self-improvement
  • mental health
  • community
  • communication
  • childhood
  • independence

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