He Cheated. Then He Had a Son. Here's What He Did Differently
From LOVERS by shan by LOVERS by shan
June 3, 2026 · 1h 13m · Episode 170
About this episode
Dondré Whitfield discusses the roots of infidelity and the importance of understanding oneself in the context of family and relationships.
Sex Is a Skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Join Beducated today at https://beducate.me/loversbyshan. Big love to the sponsor of this episode, CozyEarth! Head to https://cozyearth.com/LOVERS and use my code LOVERS for an exclusive 20% off. Head to www.penguinrandomhouse.com to get your copy of Caro Claire Burke’s new book Yesteryear, a gripping, darkly funny thriller about an influencer trapped in a nightmare version of the past. —----- Dondré Whitfield on why men cheat — and what nobody taught them about love. Dondré Whitfield is an actor best known for his roles in Guiding Light, Queen Sugar, and The Game, and the author of Male vs. Man (a book about what it actually means to be a man in the context of family, fatherhood, and love). In this conversation, he traces the origin of his infidelity not to a moment of weakness but to a moment of watching his father lust after other women in plain sight (that was the day, he says, the cheater in him was born — not because he wanted to be that man, but because he didn't yet know he had a choice). What follows is one of the most specific and honest conversations we've had on this show about what it looks like when a man finally…
People in this episode
Host: shan
Guest: Dondré Whitfield
Topics covered
- infidelity
- fatherhood
- relationships
- self-understanding
- family dynamics
Keywords
- cheating
- love
- family
- self-awareness
- parenting
Sponsors
Beducated, CozyEarth
Mentioned in this episode
Organizations: Penguin Random House
Books & works: Male vs. Man, Yesteryear
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