Soothing Each Other's Triggers - Secure Relationships Part 5

About this episode

Sharla and Robert discuss how to soothe each other's triggers and identify vulnerabilities in relationships.

Get the FREE handout for this episode HERE Imagine noticing your partner's distress instantly—and knowing exactly how to soothe it. In this episode, Sharla and Robert dive into partner soothing. Learn how to uncover 2-3 enduring vulnerabilities, avoid triggers, and use simple antidotes to uplift each other. Learn why 24/7 availability isn't codependency (it's a system of mutuality and interdependence), plus get exercises to identify vulnerabilities and a fun "how well do you know your spouse" game. Turn your “couple bubble” into a haven of healing and joy. Your Homework – Do This Week Identify vulnerabilities: Brain dump incidents, feelings, patterns—boil to 2-3. Spot partner's: Review past reactions, discuss to confirm. Create antidote lists: Soothers for each vulnerability. Play the game: Test ideas without telling—observe reactions. Discuss: Share lists, spark expertise-building talk. Resources Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin – Core for vulnerabilities/soothing. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman – Enduring vulnerabilities + processing tools. Get in Touch Website: MasterYourMarriage.us Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage Facebook…

People in this episode

Hosts: Sharla Snow, Robert Snow

Topics covered

• partner soothing
• vulnerabilities
• triggers
• mutuality
• interdependence
• relationship exercises
• couple dynamics

Keywords

• soothing
• triggers
• vulnerabilities
• relationship exercises
• couple bubble
• mutuality
• interdependence

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Wired for Love, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

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