I Was Just Diagnosed With Breast Cancer. Please Stop Saying These 5 Things.
About this episode
Professor Leah Ruppanner discusses her personal experience with breast cancer and shares five things to avoid saying to someone with a cancer diagnosis.
When someone you love gets a cancer diagnosis, you want to say the right thing — but often, what comes out does the opposite. In this very personal episode of MissPerceived, Professor Leah Ruppanner steps away from the research for a moment to talk about her own recent diagnosis of breast cancer, and the wildly inappropriate (but often well‑intentioned) things people say in response. She shares the five big “please don’t”s she keeps hearing — plus what actually helps when someone is living through cancer or another serious chronic illness. This isn’t about shaming anyone. Leah talks about the times she’s said these exact things to friends, why they come from fear and grief, and how we can all do better at holding space, dumping love in instead of out , and making it easier (not harder) for the person at the center of the storm. Chapters: 00:00 Why this episode is different — Leah’s breast cancer diagnosis 02:28 Don’t tell me about someone else’s cancer story (especially the worst‑case ones) 04:36 Why other people’s stories shift the spotlight away from the person who’s sick 05:30 Don’t ask “what stage is it?” or quiz my screening history 06:59 The hidden message in “when was your…
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