Above the Line, Below the Line - The One Model That Underpins Everything

About this episode

In this episode, Steve and Kali discuss the 'above the line, below the line' model, emphasizing personal responsibility and mindset shifts in the face of challenges.

The diagnosis is the diagnosis – but how you experience it is up to you. Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK. In this episode, Steve and Kali introduce what Steve openly calls the single most important thing he’d teach if he only had one model to share: above the line, below the line. It’s a simple framework with a huge ripple effect. Above the line lives Ownership, Accountability and Responsibility (OAR — you’re rowing your own boat). Below the line lives Blame, Excuses and Denial (BED – you’ve pulled the duvet over your head and hidden from the world). The premise is uncompromising: you’re either in one place or the other. You don’t get to fluctuate in between. What gives this episode its weight is Kali’s story. She shares openly about being diagnosed with psoriatic arthritis around the time she met Steve — a diagnosis that forced her to give up the dance company she’d been running five nights a week. For a long time, she sat below the line, blaming the condition for how she felt. The shift came when she…

People in this episode

Hosts: Steve Kay, Kali Fraser

Topics covered

• personal responsibility
• NLP
• mindset
• health
• self-improvement
• accountability

Keywords

• above the line
• below the line
• ownership
• accountability
• responsibility
• psoriatic arthritis
• self-improvement
• NLP training

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: NLPUKTraining.com

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