139: The Deeper Roots of Porn Addiction: Trauma, Shame, and Emotional Pain (with Patrick Devosse)

About this episode

The episode explores the underlying issues of porn addiction, focusing on trauma and emotional pain rather than just lust or discipline.

Most men think porn addiction is about lust. Or a lack of discipline. Or having a “high sex drive” they can’t control. But after years of working with men—and walking through my own recovery—I’ve come to see something very clearly: Porn addiction is rarely about sex. It’s about what’s underneath. It’s about trauma, emotional pain, conditioning, and the patterns your brain learned long before you ever realized there was a problem. In this episode, I sit down with Patrick Devosse, author of Reb...

People in this episode

Host: Jake Kastleman

Guest: Patrick Devosse

Topics covered

• porn addiction
• trauma
• emotional pain
• shame
• mental health

Keywords

• porn addiction
• trauma
• emotional pain
• shame
• mental health
• self improvement
• recovery

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Reb...

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