141: The Purpose of Painful Emotion | Why You Can’t Quit Porn—and the Emotional Healing Path Forward (with Jenna Riemersma)

About this episode

The episode discusses the role of painful emotions in porn addiction recovery with guest Jenna Riemersma.

In this episode, I sit down with Jenna Riemersma to talk about something I believe many men in porn addiction recovery need to understand: the role painful emotions play in keeping us stuck. Most men trying to overcome porn addiction think the answer is more discipline, control, and resistance. But in my own life and in the lives of the men I work with, I’ve seen that the deeper issue is often not just lust. It’s emotional pain. It’s shame, loneliness, fear, pressure, self-sabotage, and the i...

People in this episode

Host: Jake Kastleman

Guest: Jenna Riemersma

Topics covered

• porn addiction recovery
• emotional healing
• painful emotions
• shame
• self-sabotage
• mental health

Keywords

• porn addiction
• emotional pain
• discipline
• control
• loneliness
• fear
• self-sabotage

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