About this episode

Ellecia Paine discusses the dynamics of metamour relationships in non-monogamy and the pressures surrounding kitchen table polyamory.

What are metamour relationships supposed to look like in non-monogamy? Do you have to be instant best friends… or even chosen family… with your partner’s partner? In this episode, relationship coach Ellecia Paine explores the real emotional pacing of metamour connections. From the pressure to create “kitchen table polyamory” right away, to the importance of chemistry, play, and nervous system safety, this conversation offers grounded insight for anyone navigating polyamory, open relationship...

People in this episode

Host: Ellecia Paine

Topics covered

• metamour relationships
• non-monogamy
• kitchen table polyamory
• emotional pacing
• polyamory
• open relationships

Keywords

• metamours
• non-monogamy
• polyamory
• kitchen table
• relationships
• emotional pacing
• chemistry
• safety

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