About this episode

Kate Heskett shares her transformative experience of attending a swingers event alone, exploring themes of connection and intimacy.

What if the thing you thought made you “too much”… was actually the doorway to deeper connection, more honest relationships, and a whole lot more pleasure? In this episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous, I’m joined by writer and poet Kate Heskett, whose story appears in the new anthology Pillow Talk, a collection of real, raw, awkward, and hilarious experiences of sex, intimacy, and desire. Kate shares what it was like to show up alone to their very first swingers hotel takeover, the anxiety, ...

People in this episode

Host: Ellecia Paine

Guest: Kate Heskett

Topics covered

• swingers
• intimacy
• connection
• relationships
• pleasure

Keywords

• swingers event
• intimacy
• connection
• relationships
• pleasure
• anxiety
• Pillow Talk

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Pillow Talk

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