249. Being Seen: How to Put Yourself Out There Even When You're Afraid of Being Misperceived
About this episode
In this episode, Alissa discusses the challenges of being seen and judged, particularly for highly sensitive people, and offers insights and techniques for managing these feelings.
Being seen means being judged. In this episode, Alissa lays out why that's not a reason to stay small, and what it actually takes to let other people have an opinion of you without losing yourself in it. For HSPs, this isn't just a confidence issue. It's energetic. You feel it when someone misreads you, when a comment lands sideways, when the room shifts after you share something you're proud of. The instinct is to pull back, smooth it over, or shrink to keep the peace. Alissa pulls from her own experience, including a pointed DM from a stranger who made it clear she wasn't a fan, and from a client who just hit a major life milestone and immediately felt the weight of other people's reactions. In this episode, you'll learn: Why being judged is actually a sign you're doing something that matters The "zoomed out lens": how to observe someone's reaction without taking it on as your own What it really means to allow someone the dignity of their own experience, including their jealousy or discomfort with your success Practical energy-clearing techniques for releasing what doesn't belong to you Why dimming yourself to protect other people's feelings costs you more than it saves them…
More episodes of Not Too Sensitive - Empowering Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) To Own Their Sensitivity
- 253. How To Energetically Protect Yourself + Not Take It Personally When Others Project Onto You
- 252. No One Else Gets to Decide That You're "Too Much" or "Not Enough"
- 251. So What if People Judge You? How to Embrace Being "Cringe" and Build Sky High Self-Trust
- 250. The Art of Feeling Everything Without Falling Apart
- 248. Wanna Become Unbotherable? Start By Building Resilience
- 247. Allow Others the Dignity of Their Own Experience
Explore listener stats, chart rankings, contacts and more on the Not Too Sensitive - Empowering Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) To Own Their Sensitivity podcast page.