253. How To Energetically Protect Yourself + Not Take It Personally When Others Project Onto You
About this episode
Alissa Boyer discusses how to protect oneself energetically and not take personal offense when others project negativity.
This week's episode comes from a riff request in the Not Too Sensitive Club group chat, a question about how to stop taking it personally when someone seems committed to disliking you, especially when you're wired to feel that discomfort in your body. It's uncomfortable to sense someone judging you, and every instinct says to win them over. Alissa offers a different move: recognizing whose story this actually is. She walks through what projection usually means psychologically, the energetic practices she uses before and after being around someone who triggers this, and why she'd rather be disliked for being herself than loved for shrinking. In this episode, you'll learn: Why someone projecting negativity onto you is usually about an unexamined part of them, not evidence of something wrong with you The difference between setting a boundary with someone and pretending their treatment of you doesn't hurt How to use an energetic bubble and cord cutting before and after spending time with someone who triggers this pattern Why staying small and people pleasing can protect you from the discomfort, but why that's not the goal How to let someone's dislike of you be their thing to carry…
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